Love is...

LOVE IS…..
Love is, such a powerful word,
Love is, a very beautiful thing,..
Love is, a husband and wife,
Love is, a shiny wedding ring.
Love is, never needing to say your sorry,
Love is, being kind to all,..
Love is, always be forgiving,
Love is, helping you up when you fall.
Love is, helping those in need,
Love is, showing your beautiful smile,..
Love is, consoling a friend who grieves,
Love is, going that extra mile.
Love is, lending a shoulder to cry on,
Love is, wiping some ones tears,..
Love is, telling a friend its ok,
Love is, BEING a friend for years and years.
Love is, giving birth to a beautiful child,
Love is, holding them oh so tight,..
Love is, cherishing your time with them,
Love is, always kissing them goodnite.
Love is, staying together through thick or thin,
Love is, being faithful and true,..
Love is, always and forever praising God,
Love is, always saying, “ I LOVE YOU “

a journey

To all here ,..if I may,.... This is in refference to the different grief. I have expierienced all of these feelings as well. 3 different times,..and let me say,......it is different each time. Sure you go through all the basics with each,...but each child is different and unique in their own way,...and so are your feelings for them. For someone to say " a loss is a loss ",...it is partially true,...but mostly not.ALL parents ,..still have that gut wrenching pain in their heart,...but , ( at least for me),...everyone grieves differently,...and proceeds through the process at a different pace. There are many times , ( or days ), that I may have a low period, and Char is there to help me through.Then,...there are days that my stage of the grief process is at a different point than hers, and I would be consoling her. At times, when Jason passed, that I didn't know WHAT to do. My first loss.How do I get through this,....How can I be the strong one for my wife and other son. But , I did. When Jerry Jr passed away. WoW,...WHAT A BLOW TO THE HEART ! Now , here is the 2nd loss. I was very angry with God,....I cursed at God,....I didn't want anything to do with him,...at all. These were feelings that I had for quite some time. Didn't return to work until I absolutely had to. Over 3 months to be exact. Then , I realized that I still had my beautiful daughter Tiffany who was special needs, and needed extra care like Jerry did before he passed. I also realized that my very beautiful wife Char was looking to ME for support and I had to grab myself by the boot straps, and get my act together, so that I may be her rock and comforter. After all, we shared our grief of our boys together,....WE WERE MOM & DAD ! For the next 13 years, It was Tiffany Angel , Mom, and Dad. How lucky I felt,...to be the provider to these 2 beautiful ladies in my life. " Our boys are away at college",.. I use to joke about,...and they're watching over us. When Tiffany started getting sick, ( Dec 2008 ),....we ,( as any other loving parent would do), made it our extreme passion to care for her, and be right there for her,..24/7. By now , she is in the hospital ( again ),..and in the I C U. We were there for months. When she came out, (that time),...she had all this extra equipment on board,...but,..again, as we always did,...we made it our passion to do whatever we needed to do,..to keep her well,comfortable,..and happy. For the next few months , she was in and out of the hospital, and MOM & DAD right there with her again 24/7....lol......( I guess we liked the hospital food). When we came back home,..and after a couple of weeks passed,...God told our precious daughter ,..ENOUGH IS ENOUGH,...and he took her by the hand , and guided her home to be with her brothers. This time ,..with our 3rd and last loss of our children,...it was ( and still is ) different, than it was with our sons. As someone told us,..." its like you are grieving all over again for all 3 children this time". But the grief ,..is different. Instead of being angry with God and cursing at him,...I was disappointed in him, for not making our daughter feel better. After stewing about this thought for a while,..(weeks),..I came to realize that he DID in fact make my daughter feel better. He took away all of her pain ,and discomfort, and made her whole, at peace,..and perfect in every way. What a blessing for her ! Concluding with all this,.....isn't that what all parents want for their children,......to have the BEST of everything.............CAN'T GET ANY BETTER THAN THAT,....TO BE FACE TO FACE WITH GOD HIMSELF, and TO RESIDE IN HEAVEN WITH HIM.......THERE IS A GOD,...AND HE IS REAL <3....peace and love to all

Daddys little girl......Mommas whole world

Our precious Tiffany, So sweet and pure,...Daddys little girl, thats for sure.
your beautiful face, your hair full of curls,..Mommas best friend, Mommas whole world.
Momma called me at work, to tell me the great news,...time to go shopping , for little girly shoes.
My feet didn't touch the ground, the rest of the day,...such beautiful news coming... our way.
The day you were born, what a blessing indeed,..born with challenges, born with special needs.
Such a wonderful gift ,from heaven above,...that never-ending smile, your unconditional love.
Just happy to be, no matter where we went,...being with Mom and Dad, always made you feel content
The vacations we took, the fun times we had,..certainly made us feel proud, to be your Mom and Dad.
Missing you is painful, a pain so hard to bear,..we miss caressing your skin, we miss caressing your hair.
A true angel from heaven, sent to us to care for and raise, thanking God for you,..and giving him praise.
You are a gem of a daughter, pure as a pearl,...Daddys little girl,..Mommas whole world.
Author: Jerry Morgan

God

‎1.... God won't ask what kind of car you drove. He'll ask how many people you drove who didn't have transportation...

2.... God won't ask the square footage of your house, He'll ask how many people you welcomed into your home.

3.... God wo...n't ask about the clothes you had in your closet, He'll ask how many you helped to clothe.

4.... God won't ask what your highest salary was. He'll ask if you compromised your character to obtain it.

5..... God won't ask what your job title was. He'll ask if you performed your job to the best of your ability.

6.... God won't ask how many friends you had. He'll ask how many people to whom you were a friend.

7.... God won't ask in what neighborhood you lived, He'll ask how you treated your neighbors.

8.... God won't ask about the color of your skin, He'll ask about the content of your character.

9.... God won't ask why it took you so long to seek Salvation. He'll lovingly take you to your mansion in heaven, and not to the gates of Hell.

10.... God won't have to ask how many people you shared this with, He already knows your decision

Life

This is YOUR day God has made for YOU ! .......Live it,....laugh with it,... share your love for it,...enjoy it,.....and especially GIVE THANKS  for it <3

grief journey

‎23 years ago ,we started this journey called grief......14 years ago, that journey was magnified, way beyond belief. going back 1 year ago,... its magnified again you see,...Jesus needed our last child,...which is child number 3. Jason,Jerry, and Tiffany...Mom and I love you, more than words can say...we think of u,we miss u, each and every day.♥♥♥

message to our children

Our Children......

Loving you is easy,..for this we already know,..

missing you is hard,..the day we let you go.
...
you are our treasures,..created with lots of love,..

Our beautiful gifts,...from Heaven above.

... God sent you to us,..to care for, for a while,..

the special children you are ,.. made everyone smile.

your job here on earth ,..only God will understand,...

We ask ourselves why,..when the Angels came to take you by your hand.

So enjoy Heavens beauty,..for it is all a gift to you,.....

One day very soon,..Mom & Dad will be with all of you.

Jerry Jrs Birthday...November 21st

On this day, 29 years ago,...the good Lord blessed us with a son, a son that we would come to love and know. His name would be the same as mine, a name that he would take,.. his name would be Jerry, he would surely become my name sake. That... little bundle, I was so affraid to hold,.."you really won't break him" Momma often told. I drove home that night, beeping my horn so loud,..How happy I was , how very,very proud. People thought I was crazy, people thought I was high,..just smiling and shouting as they all drove by. High indeed I was, High with happiness you see,...So glad to have you, Gods blessing of you to me. Happy Birthday my son, I wish you only the best,..I will ALWAYS love you, I will never love you less.

Twas the day before Christmas, and all through our home,
The feeling that we were feeling, was that of being alone.
Our hearts are now broken, because you are not here,
Our hearts are very heavy, we shed a lot of tears.
Our doggies are near us , because we are sad,
They think the world of us, We are their Mom and Dad.
They know that we grieve for you, each and every day
They know that we miss you , each and every way.
Then one night while we were asleep,
The doggies heard a noise, a little more than a peep.
We woke right up, and as you grabbed my hand,
We could not believe what we were seeing, right there you did stand.
A smiling you, all perfect in Gods light,
Such a beautiful spirit , we are seeing tonight.
Our heavenly child , came to visit us you see,
To show us how amazing, heaven can be.
You started to speak, and out of your mouth these words did come,
I love you Mom & Dad, and I love what you’ve overcome.
Your sadness for me, will always be there
It may not be as bad, it may be a little easier to bare.
I know that you both miss me, your love for me is so great,
I am always with you in your heart, I am just inside heavens gate.
So the next time you are sad, or having a day that is blue,
Just speak my name and think of me, because you know that I love you

After going through this journey of grief 3 times ( 3 children ), I am coming to realize that first and foremost, they are with our Heavenly Father, in THE most beautiful place ever. Do we miss them?......ABSOLUTELY ! .....but please keep in mind one of the most important things,......that we WILL be with our children again one day, WITHOUT A DOUBT,........and the next time we are with them,..we will NEVER be away from them again,..EVER. Not even the power of death will be able to separate us. This is just a temporary separation,.....very brief. Compare a grain of salt to a salt mine.........thats how our time here on earth is compared to an eternity with our children. I choose not to just grieve for, and about their death, ( their lives meant ALOT more than that),......BUT I WANT TO CELEBRATE THEIR LIVES EVEN MORE.

Our precious Tiffany, So sweet and pure,...Daddys little girl, thats for sure.
your beautiful face, your hair full of curls,..Mommas best friend, Mommas whole world.
Momma called me at work, to tell me the great news,...time to go shopping , for little girly shoes.
My feet didn't touch the ground, the rest of the day,...such beautiful news coming... our way.
The day you were born, what a blessing indeed,..born with challenges, born with special needs.
Such a wonderful gift ,from heaven above,...that never-ending smile, your unconditional love.
Just happy to be, no matter where we went,...being with Mom and Dad, always made you feel content
The vacations we took, the fun times we had,..certainly made us feel proud, to be your Mom and Dad.
Missing you is painful, a pain so hard to bear,..we miss caressing your skin, we miss caressing your hair.
A true angel from heaven, sent to us to care for and raise, thanking God for you,..and giving him praise.
You are a gem of a daughter, pure as a pearl,...Daddys little girl,..Mommas whole world.
Author: Jerry Morgan

To my beautiful wife....this is our journey ....this is our life. Our journey started, so very long ago,.....a journey with highs , a journey with lows. We were very young, but so in love you see,..I got down on my knees , and asked you to... marry me. When you said yes, I knew that we would become one,....our happiness got better, when you gave me a son. A special boy, my best friend too,...a mommas boy,.your sonshine to you. After some years , we were blessed with another birth,..the Lord smiled upon us and said too pure for earth. That broke our heart, the pain that we felt,...we had to continue,..and playout the hand we were delt. The years would pass , the earth would still twirl,.....then one day,..we were blessed with a girl. How sweet and precious, this child is to be,...how fitting the name,..our beautiful Tiffany.
Years go by, what fun times we had....a very true blessing, an honnor to be their Dad. Sicknesses came and went, and some we could not fix,...our heart was torn again,..in 1996. Our other precious boy. went home to God too, how horrible the... feeling , when your heart is ripped in two. Our beautiful Tiffany , would help us through our grief, losing child number 2, was way beyond belief. The three of us continued, through this life that God has planned,...we were still here, the boys were holding Gods hand. Years passed by , and things were going great,....sickness came again, in 2008. Tiffany was getting ready to be with God too,..losing our last child ,..what are we to do. We continue to mourn, for all three children now,.I wish we knew what to do,.I wish we knew how.

As we both say,...its you and me kid.. we look back at the memories, we look back at what we did. Our future is so uncertain. but one thing is true,...God is always with us,..our children are too

The beginning

Well ,...day one of our Blog....trying to set up layout. looking forward to blogging with folks, and telling our story,..and hopefully inspire others, and give others hope. peace and love to all